The Warnings for new moms are endless! Breastfeeding vs. Formula, Vaccines vs. No Vaccines, Cloth Diapers vs. Disposable, Working vs. Stay at Home Mom, How Baby Should Lay, How Baby Should Play…. Every experienced parent, doctor and baby expert dumps zillions of Warnings on the new mom. There is one Warning however, that most leave out. In my opinion, the most important Warning every new mom should hear…
The moment a woman finds out she is going to be a mother, the vision she holds for her life changes forever. Suddenly some things that seemed so important don’t matter any more and some things that she thought she would never do have become daily routine. Every single one of our priorities shifts to offer the very best for our baby. As mothers, we are highly praised for this selfless mentality and it becomes ingrained into our being. I love giving my children all that I can and seeing them happy and successful. While it is one of the best parts of being a mom, no one warned me that when taken too far it can be harmful to me and my children.
I devoted every second of my time focusing on my children and my family and trying give them the perfect life.
We did activities and outings. We ate the right foods and took care of ourselves. We focused on learning and schoolwork. I always read books and articles on the latest studies for children and the latest studies on parenting.
I felt that I was working so hard to keep my family growing and living the best life possible, but for some reason, it always seemed like there was more I should be doing. This was so frustrating to me! I would break down in tears because I felt like I didn't have the time or the means to give my family everything they deserved. Most of all, I was frustrated with myself. Wondering when I would finally feel satisfied in my mommy role.
I was given compliments from others all the time about my mothering skills…”You have such terrific kids!” “They are so polite and well mannered.” “You are such an involved parent!” …but as these wonderful comments reached my ears all I thought was,”Yeah, I could do better.”
Sadly, most Mommas feel this way. They feel as if they are working their sexy booties off for their families but it's still not enough.
What I was missing was the one key thing every momma needs to know. The thing no one warns her about!
Stop worrying and start loving! <3
Stop trying so hard to do everything perfect and simply be there to love your family!
All that your family really wants from you is your LOVE and your PRESENCE in each moment they spend with you.
This might seem funny right now because when you first hold your little bundle of joy, all you can think about is enjoying each moment and pouring your love all over them. But as life moves forward, hardships happen, stresses get in the way and our babies face obstacles as they grow. We have so many complex things to think about when it comes to taking care of our family.
As wonderful Sexy Mommas, we do our best to be everything and provide everything for our family. So much so that we’re getting in the way of being what our family really needs – us!
They just need us to be in the moment with them. To enjoy the here are now. Not worrying about the details.
To put it simply..We’re trying too hard! Anytime we try too hard at something it back fires – always. It back fires because we are getting in the way of the process. Instead of letting things happen, we are trying to control and manipulate the results. Yes, we want our children to be perfect, smart and beautiful little human beings! Of course, but sometimes this desire gets in the way of us seeing that our child is already perfect! Or that this moment that we are sharing with them is perfect, right now! Or that who we are and what we can give right now is perfect, just as it is!
When we become parents we want to be superheros. Creating the best possible lives for our babies. The thing is, we have already created the best life – our baby. He is here! He is the creation of life itself! The hardest work is already done. We created a life. Now we get to sit back and enjoy the ride, offering love and guidance along the way.
As far as knowing what guidance to give along the way, trust your heart Sexy Momma. Everything you need is already in there.
With Love and Sexiness,