Mirror Mirror on the Wall….My Three-Year-Old Taught Me the Greatest Lesson of All…
Snow White was always one of my favorite fairy tales. Of course I didn’t care for the Evil Queen, but honestly, who wouldn’t want a magic mirror that tells you, you are the most beautiful woman in all the land? My guess is that I’d get a little upset too if my mirror suddenly started changing it’s tune…
What if you had a magic mirror? Can you imagine your confidence and self esteem level if your mirror told you that you were the most beautiful maiden in all the land? Every single morning! Sounds ah-mazing! As we learn from the Evil Queen, however, it does not mater who or what tells you that you’re beautiful. Or even how often they tell you. You are still going to feel unsure, insecure, and continue to ask the mirror for reassurance every single day. That is, until you decide for yourself that you are undoubtedly the most beautiful woman in all the land.
The little princess in the picture above is my 3(almost 4) year old. She just loves to dress up, do her hair, and do her make-up in the mirror. I love watching her and listening to her as she sings and tells me how beautiful she looks. When I watch her I see how openly and with a ‘pure-heart’ that she sees herself. There is no bias and no judgement in her gaze.
When Little Miss Adelina looks in the mirror all she sees is herself in her true form. She sees all that she is, and she loves everything that she sees! Isn’t it that way with all young children? What you see is what you get. Plain and simple, because they don’t know any other way!
That is, not until they are told by others in the world that they could be better if they would ‘tweak’ this or ‘tweak’ that about them self. I grew up ‘tweaking’ so many things about myself that one day I was all ‘tweaked-out’. I was all grown up and realized that I had no idea who in the world I was anymore.
For such a long time I felt so strongly that I had to mold and change myself to become what others wanted me to be. I compromised myself time and time again. I held myself back from growing into my true unique self. I had decided that I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror, because I thought that everyone else didn’t like it either.
Until one day someone said something that struck a chord so deep inside me. They said,”I will love you until you can love yourself.” Wow…For one, I didn’t know it was such a problem that I didn’t love myself. I thought loving yourself was reserved for conceited people. For two, I began to realize how dependent I was on the love that I received form everyone around me. Their love was my ‘Mirror on the Wall’. I needed them to tell me over and over again that I was lovable, just to feel O.K. with myself.
But not the beautiful little girl on this page who is sitting in front of her mirror. How wise she is, her little 3 year-old self. THAT is what well all need. We need to strip away all of the thoughts and images that have been programmed into us, telling us who we are supposed to be or how we are supposed to look. None of those garbage thoughts are real!!! They are stuck in our heads only because we learned that they should be there. So now learn this, no way should those thoughts be in your head!! Kick them out! Right now!
We all have to go back to the little girl we used to be, gazing into the mirror and loving every single bit of everything we see…
You are here. You are beautiful. You are YOU.
YOU are Perfect.
I am here telling you that I will love you until you can love yourself. Because YOU deserve love.
Love and Sexiness,
Danielle
xoxo
*This post originally appeared on www.daniellezack.com
