When you think about a woman becoming a mother, isn’t “Sexy” the first adjective that comes to mind? I mean, come on…what’s not sexy about growing a gigantic belly, waddling around, peeing when you sneeze, waiting out the pain of labor and squeezing a small ham out of your lady parts?
Here’s me right after delivering my first daughter. Super Sexy!! Am I right??
Here’s me after delivering my second daughter. I am without a doubt looking my sexiest right here!!!
Now, you probably think I’m joking. I am actually TOTALLY serious about these two pictures being the sexiest pictures I have ever taken in my life. That’s because these pictures capture 100% of me, raw and powerful. Each of these pictures shows an image of unconditional love and the ultimate female superpower – creating new life. Nothing is sexier that that!
We have been taught to look at everything surrounding pregnancy and giving birth as un-sexy.
Does anyone else see the irony here? The whole process of joining the mommy club start starts with SEX!! Most of the time, a lot of it. So how can we go from total ‘sex’-iness to being unsexy? The truth is…we don’t! We’ve been trained to buy into this evil illusion that sexy is only for youthful and child-less women. It’s the same illusion that makes us see stretch marks, cellulite and extra curvy hips as signs to turn in our membership card to the sexy club.
I have never felt more alive than when I gave birth to my children. Becoming a mother allowed me to use parts of my body that I had never used before and do things that I never thought I could do, both physically and in my soul. Sadly, I let the joy of feeling alive diminish soon after these pictures were taken. I got caught up in worrying about whether or not I was being a good mom and stressing about the evil illusion surrounding my body. I stressed about how I could make my sacred and divine body look like it never performed a sacred and divine miracle.
It’s true, we have a new mommy body now. Our old body will never return. The old body was wonderful and it served us very well, but it was not anything like the amazing body we have now. We now have a body that has performed miracles! A body that was called into divine action and turned a tiny fertilized egg into a moving, breathing body, full of life and personality. That is profoundly sexy! Your body is gorgeous and sacred.
Don’t you see? We have it all backwards! The stretch marks, c-section scars, birthing hips and cellulite are our badges of honor. Badges we should be wearing with pride. They show that we are sexy women who create miracles!
Let’s take back our badges of honor sexy mommas!
Let’s teach the world what real feminine beauty looks like by teaching our children to honor their bodies, every single part, and to honor all of the diverse bodies that make up our world. The change begins with us showing our children what it means to love all of our perfections and imperfections. That means YOU have to lead by example, Momma.
Whenever you are feeling unsexy or frustrated with your physical self, pull out the sexiest picture you have ever taken in your life – the one that was taken right after you met your precious baby for the first time. Stare at it for a while and take in the beauty of that woman in the photograph. Take in her joyful radiance. Most of all, take in the love and the pride that she has for herself, her body and for the miracle she just created.
Know that you are the incredible woman in that photograph and although time has passed, your love and power have not diminished, they have only grown stronger.
Becoming a mother is by far the sexiest thing you have ever done! Honor your strength and sexiness gorgeous momma!
Are you feeling courageous? We would love to see the sexiest picture of your life! Show your Sexy Momma Pride and share the very first picture of you and your little bundle of joy on the Sexy and Successful Mommas facebook page here. Use the hash tag #sexiestpicofmylife.
Love and Sexiness,
*Special Note: I would like to thank my wonderful hubby for capturing these moments for me. I love you.